Tuesday, January 12, 2010
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Sunday, January 3, 2010
The Baby Dilemma
HAPPY NEW YEAR!
Now I can finally say Shane and I are getting married THIS YEAR!! WOO!!! On a related note:
Today, Barry and Penny (Shane's parents) came up to visit. They wanted to check out the ballroom we're holding the festivities at and check out possible rehearsal dinner venues as well.
After a butterfly-in-tummy inducing trip to the Arista Ballroom, we hopped back onto the road in search of a restaurant in the area. I'd gotten some input on a few restaurants in the area from some friends, (Kudos to Mr. Bob Stark *btw.) that might be good choices. We drove between the Hawthorne District and Laurelhurst and found four restaurants that all open after 5pm (so we couldn't check out the food or insides...) and one Pastini Pastaria. The food was good, the service... wasn't... great. But we had a great time regardless and talked about a lot of wedding details.
My favorite conversation of the day however, had to be about invitation etiquette. How do we tell people we don't want their babies crying during the ceremony, and what's more how do people stop said babies from actually crying during the ceremony? IS there a polite way of telling guests to A. Not bring infants, or B. Leave the room immediately if an infant happens to act up.
Don't get me wrong, I love kids. (Yes, yes, completely unbeknownst to many, I know.) I actually enjoy them quite a bit and I can't wait to have a couple of my own. However... you only get married once. (Theoretically.) The ceremony won't be long seeing as Shane and I don't like being the center of attention (Haha) and we don't want to stand around reciting 40 verses of repetitiveness. We would like to have most of the evening video-taped and I'm really sorry, but in forty years when I get a hankering to watch us saying our vows for the first time I really don't want to hear, "With this ring, I thee WWWWWWWWWWWWWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"
I don't want to step on any toes because as luck would have it, there will be a number of people attending with infants. I just...ya know? It's a touchy subject. I understand that. And I'm thrilled for those who've been lucky enough to expand their families. But really, how do you say something like that to someone you care about without being crass or offensive?
Barry, Penny, Shane and I really couldn't come up with many nice ones. But here are some of my favorites we DID come up with:
1. During the ceremony, please silence all cell phones, pagers, and small children.
2. Please check your coats and crying infants at the door.
3. Please set your cell phones and babies on silent mode.
All relatively along the same lines but hilarious to me none-the-less.
Also, non-invited guests. Another touchy subject. We're trying to keep the guest list to a minimum- we really are. I didn't even want more than a hundred people attending, but we know too many awesome people. No joke. But through the grape-vine I keep hearing about people getting invited by other people which IS NOT OKAY!!!!!!!! I've already sent out the Save the Date cards so if by chance you hear someone is planning on coming who DID NOT receive one... refer them to this page please. (Unless you know personally you're invited, but never received one then just let me know you never got one and I'll make sure it's delivered promptly.)
I understand that some people may be hurt by our decision to cut them from the final guest list, and that maybe some won't even come regardless of whether we actually invite them. But to assume it's okay for you to show up unannounced, without being formally invited is just as rude- in my opinion. I'm sorry if I sound awful right now and "Bridezilla"-like but there's only so much I can do here. The venue we're at only holds a certain number of people. We're inviting as many people as we can without going over that number. So I'm sorry, I love you all, but if for some reason you don't receive an invite... well I love you but don't show up. I'll probably throw a fit or have a bridesmaid do it for me.
I really feel awful writing that last paragraph. I really, really do. Le sigh. C'est la vie, no?
*BTW = By the way
Now I can finally say Shane and I are getting married THIS YEAR!! WOO!!! On a related note:
Today, Barry and Penny (Shane's parents) came up to visit. They wanted to check out the ballroom we're holding the festivities at and check out possible rehearsal dinner venues as well.
After a butterfly-in-tummy inducing trip to the Arista Ballroom, we hopped back onto the road in search of a restaurant in the area. I'd gotten some input on a few restaurants in the area from some friends, (Kudos to Mr. Bob Stark *btw.) that might be good choices. We drove between the Hawthorne District and Laurelhurst and found four restaurants that all open after 5pm (so we couldn't check out the food or insides...) and one Pastini Pastaria. The food was good, the service... wasn't... great. But we had a great time regardless and talked about a lot of wedding details.
My favorite conversation of the day however, had to be about invitation etiquette. How do we tell people we don't want their babies crying during the ceremony, and what's more how do people stop said babies from actually crying during the ceremony? IS there a polite way of telling guests to A. Not bring infants, or B. Leave the room immediately if an infant happens to act up.
Don't get me wrong, I love kids. (Yes, yes, completely unbeknownst to many, I know.) I actually enjoy them quite a bit and I can't wait to have a couple of my own. However... you only get married once. (Theoretically.) The ceremony won't be long seeing as Shane and I don't like being the center of attention (Haha) and we don't want to stand around reciting 40 verses of repetitiveness. We would like to have most of the evening video-taped and I'm really sorry, but in forty years when I get a hankering to watch us saying our vows for the first time I really don't want to hear, "With this ring, I thee WWWWWWWWWWWWWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"
I don't want to step on any toes because as luck would have it, there will be a number of people attending with infants. I just...ya know? It's a touchy subject. I understand that. And I'm thrilled for those who've been lucky enough to expand their families. But really, how do you say something like that to someone you care about without being crass or offensive?
Barry, Penny, Shane and I really couldn't come up with many nice ones. But here are some of my favorites we DID come up with:
1. During the ceremony, please silence all cell phones, pagers, and small children.
2. Please check your coats and crying infants at the door.
3. Please set your cell phones and babies on silent mode.
All relatively along the same lines but hilarious to me none-the-less.
Also, non-invited guests. Another touchy subject. We're trying to keep the guest list to a minimum- we really are. I didn't even want more than a hundred people attending, but we know too many awesome people. No joke. But through the grape-vine I keep hearing about people getting invited by other people which IS NOT OKAY!!!!!!!! I've already sent out the Save the Date cards so if by chance you hear someone is planning on coming who DID NOT receive one... refer them to this page please. (Unless you know personally you're invited, but never received one then just let me know you never got one and I'll make sure it's delivered promptly.)
I understand that some people may be hurt by our decision to cut them from the final guest list, and that maybe some won't even come regardless of whether we actually invite them. But to assume it's okay for you to show up unannounced, without being formally invited is just as rude- in my opinion. I'm sorry if I sound awful right now and "Bridezilla"-like but there's only so much I can do here. The venue we're at only holds a certain number of people. We're inviting as many people as we can without going over that number. So I'm sorry, I love you all, but if for some reason you don't receive an invite... well I love you but don't show up. I'll probably throw a fit or have a bridesmaid do it for me.
I really feel awful writing that last paragraph. I really, really do. Le sigh. C'est la vie, no?
*BTW = By the way
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